I still prefer Twitter and saw a great comment the other night, something like – “Facebook is to find old friends and Twitter is find new ones”. So true.
Facebook have made changes, however what I don’t understand is why do they still call everyone “Friends”? I currently have 1225 “Friends” on Facebook – I don’t know that many people personally and doubt I ever will in my lifetime. It’s great that people want to hook up with me and hopefully I can direct them to my business page and spread the word; but I still don’t know these people and likely I never will.
I probably have about 15 family members and maybe 40 real friends, school friends and old colleagues on Facebook. So who are the other 1170 people that have befriended me?
I got a Private Message today from someone asking “Do I know you?” Before I could answer “No” she’d gone. But it got me wondering how she or I had accepted the Facebook friendship in the beginning. One of us must have instigated it and the other accepted. Why?
I understand people following a business page because they are recommended to “Like” it. And sometimes friends are recommended as have been to me recently from helping someone with their accounts.
However to get people to “Like” your business page you need to get lots of people knowing about it and it’s therefore helpful by them becoming “Friends” first.
I admit that I tried to build up my Facebook following in my previous job to get the name out there. But I haven’t since and still I’m getting lots of “friends” daily. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not complaining about it, I just want to get my head around why people want to “friend” me.
Personally I think it’s just out of courtesy to befriend someone’s request and also with a view to making more real friends – either virtually or in person. I normally go through accepting a load quite quickly once a week. I don’t always look into their backgrounds or personal info before I hit “confirm”. My bad!
The other thing about this is that I sometimes accept friend requests on Facebook because they are already friends with people I know. Now that’s ok because it’s like you’re all invited to a friend’s birthday party and able to meet your friend’s friends too. But what if you didn’t even know the person’s party you were at – these are complete strangers therefore, not even someone you know knows them.
I’m thinking that Facebook should break down “Friends” into different categories like “Family”, “School Friends”, “Real Friends”, “Work Colleagues” and “Maybe New Friends I Haven’t Met Yet”. You can move them around as you wish. Hell even add “Ex-Boyfriends / Ex-Girlfriends” for some fun. 😉
This could even help somewhat to stopping predators stalking or grooming people on Facebook.
This blog post started off as a bit of a rant but has finished with me still asking why. Maybe you know?